You are not fulfilled being a mom? Read this!

Mom guilt hits really hard when a mother realizes that being a mom is “not it”. If you feel completely happy and fulfilled being a mother to your beautiful baby, then this blog post is probably not meant for you. If you, however, at some point thought something along the lines of  “being a mom is definitely not what I thought it would be like”-

then keep on reading!

Most new moms don’t know what to expect when they become mothers. We are shown picturesque families in advertisements and social media and most of us have dreamed of what it would be like holding our newborn baby for the first time. It’s all we ever wanted. Yet, once it happens, reality may look quite different and not as glamorous as expected. Not being fulfilled with your new role and craving some outlet like your old job back, being creative, being alone or with old friends is totally normal, and please don’t ever feel mom guilt over it. If motherhood has not fulfilled you, here are some tips on how to handle your feelings:

• Acceptance

Don’t ever make yourself feel bad for your feelings. Accept the way this chapter of your life makes you feel and give those emotions the space they deserve.

• Practice being grateful

Contentment is learned. It’s a decision to be ok with where I’m at. It’s a choice to not constantly compare and wish for another life. We have to practice being grateful, to practice listing all the things we are thankful for. Try changing your perspective!

• Plan your day around yourself more

Don’t completely lose yourself in your daily routine with your baby. You feel like going to a cute café? Take your baby with you and enjoy that coffee. Want to go shopping? Perfect, the stroller fits a lot of shopping bags. Feel like going to a Yoga class? Amazing, there are many great courses where your child can join, or do it at home with your little one.

• Realize, this will pass

Try to internalize every day, that this shall pass. There will be a day when your kid is off to Uni and your Nest will be completely empty. And even before that, when your child goes to kindergarten, and you have half a day to yourself or to get back into your career sattle. Try to enjoy the moments when your baby is so little and dependent on you. One day you might look back and even miss these days!